Author: CJ Doe

When people talk BDSM, they think about leather clad women in needle point stilettos bearing floggers that dangle down about their calves. But this is reality, kids, and it is a fair statement that while tying up your boss to get him to sit down and listen to your ideas or gagging a chatty typing pool member so you can get some work done are great fantasies to make you smile when you can’t take any more, the reality is that a 24/7 power exchange is simply not possible for many people to maintain. Let’s face it, it is a…

Finding people in your area to mingle with as a bondage related individual may seem next to impossible. Like swingers, poly couples, and other sexual “deviants”, (I mean that in a good way!) BDSM’ers do not openly advertise in the every day vanilla world. So, in an effort to meet new people in the community, I often suggest that new comers join different bondage related sites.

BDSM is a great, big, wide world. It can be scary, intimidating, cruel (and not in a fun way), cold and defiant. It takes a great deal of patience, self-discipline and strength to pursue this lifestyle. You should definitely be comfortable with who you are as a person, and where you fit before you delve too deeply into it. The base line in all of your relationships should be always be trust.

As I have explained previously, I have been active in the BDSM lifestyle and its communities on various levels for many years now. I admit, I started when I was quite young, and had an intense interest in the feeling of being bound. I can, and most days do, remember clearly the scent of leather as it crossed the flesh of my wrists and the instant need to run away from what I had done. It takes a great deal of trust to allow some one to bind you, particularly in the bedroom. You are, after all, at your most vulnerable; naked, wanting, bound, waiting… Its an intoxicating mix that makes my head spin when I think about it. I love it. It is a drug that can not be compared to any other, and an addiction that will evolve into a full-bellied beast that never lies dormant. You will always need it, if it is in your blood, as it is in mine.

Okay, let me start with this; boys, calm down, this isn’t for everyone; girls, don’t get so excited, this isn’t as easy as I am going to make it sound, and your man will most likely have a screaming cow if you try and get him on board without the full understanding of what you are asking him to do, how it works, and how it can be a wonderful experience for him in so many ways

A comment came to me on the last blog that I posted in regards to general BDSM. Jack Junior wanted to know if there was room for an Open relationship in the BDSM community. I informed Jack, that yes, yes there is Virgina, in fact, a Santa Clause. I am happy to report that even in the vastly limited experience I have, there have been multiple highly successful open D/s relationships that I have had the honor of being witness to, and in a case or two, participated in. Let’s start with this; I am going to use a very…

When many of you read my blog, you may ask yourself, “Who is this person with the big ideas and the obviously fake name?” Perhaps a simple explanation of my BDSM lifestyle experience will help you a bit. It maybe relative to some of you, and it may not. That’s okay. It will not change who I am if you are not, and it will not serve as validation for me if you are. It is what it is. These are the things I have done. (Forgive me father for I have sinned?) Technically, I am a switch. That is…

Okay, if you have made it this far, then I am going to go on the idea that you have either had some kind of experience, or that you have a bit more than a passing interest, and that you are familiar with key words; dom, domme, domiant, sub, submissive, master, mistress boi, tg, sissy boy, the list goes on…so I’ll spare us all… If, for some bizarre reason you felt this would just be fun to read, and you have no idea what these things mean, I want you to click the little back arrow, you are going to be lost, and my mind is so fucked, I will not be able to find you.