Author: Cooper S. Beckett

The Moist Lube Dispenser from Pipedream Products is a disappointment.

Cooper answers a question from Jenna about how to best get started doing anal play with her boyfriend.

So, yes, I shut down the site, rather entirely, for almost three weeks. Newer readers probably didn’t notice because the site was cycling through some of our old content, but there was certainly no NEW content being posted. It’s not that I was out of content, mind you, it’s that I was out of enthusiasm. You see, when I began Swingset it was intended to function not only as an educational resource for swingers, but a home to my personal swinging blog. A way I could write about the experiences and questions I’m having; a way I could get these thoughts out into the world. It WAS that for a time as well.

Sexy dice seem to be this rite of passage. In high school, almost everybody I knew got a pair at some point from the local Spencer’s gifts store when they thought their might be potential for sexy time in their life. Often that potential was the merest grasping at straws and represented no ACTUAL potential, but the excitement level was high in those days, as was the feeling of perhaps needing to break the ice, of to be able to attribute your actions to the dice. “Lick. Crotch.” “better do what the dice say….they have eerie powers.” And just an…

So, I made the mistake of announcing on Facebook that we’d booked our flights to Cancun for next February.  (Join Marilyn and I in Desire with the Sex is Fun Group!) And, so quickly that I’m shocked I didn’t realize that this might happen, I got several “where are you staying?”s from friends, family, my father.  Hmmm.  My parents are big believers in vacation, and have been to pretty much ever major resort area in this hemisphere (and many in Europe as well) so the question was not only not a surprise, it was a forehead slapping sonuvabitch! So, to…

“What’s on your list?” Sasha asked me. “I’m…um…my list?” “Your todo list, you know, lifestyle todos.” “Oh! I hadn’t really thought about it.” “Well, you should. Tell some nice people your list and they’re gonna want to help you check things off…” She winked. So, I thought, why don’t we, as a swingset, compile a “Master Swingset Todo List?”  I’ll get things started with some of mine and friends, and you guys can submit your own in the comments to help us all go from vanilla to sex god in a few easy checks! We’re gonna be getting graphic, so…

Our narrator submits to his lover’s hand, first one, then two, then three fingers inside him, massaging his prostate, ever closer to a P-Spot orgasm in this piece of erotica.

Cooper tackles the enormous Liberator Zeppelin sex bean bag chair, in an extra large review to fit its extra large stature

As you may have noticed, I’m the lube guy around here.  I think it’s because so many of the other products require the female perspective far more than the male, so I simply can’t be the expert on whatever newfangled dildo Marilyn is playing with this week. Even if I’m lending a hand. But when it comes to lube, lending a hand is really what’s needed to do most of the testing. (Nice segue, no?) I’ve got a love hate relationships with lubes that promise warming. The KY warming lube, and their his and her lube combination of warming and cooling…

I’ve been swinging on and off for years as a single guy. Just over a year ago I met a woman who’s kinky and pretty open minded and into trying BDSM. I hoped that I could draw her into swinging but she’s very reticent about getting started despite her wanting us both to try some bi fun. My best efforts in making her feel secure in our relationship don’t seem to be working as she still struggles with taking that first step. I’m finding it frustrating because I’m missing the lifestyle but don’t want to ruin what we have now.