Author: Cooper S. Beckett

I’ve been trying to inform people of my interest in them more, be that interest in a sexual or romantic relationship. Because I’ve been trying to no longer live life in fear. I know that may seem like an extreme statement, but I’ve been realizing for a while now (especially after Open SF) that I’ve spent much of my adult life paralyzed by the fear of asking the question. In high school, the question was “Would you like to go on a date?” As a swinger, the question morphs to a variation on “I’m attracted to you, are you attracted…

As the male half of the Becketts, I honestly don’t get too many products to review. And usually they’re mediocre or terrible when I do. Admittedly LELO sending us a new product is a call for joy and celebration around the Beckett household, but doesn’t usually mean much for me. But the Tiani 2 caused me to take note due to promises of being a toy for couples. Way back, before The Swingset was born, before non-monogamy transformed our sex life, we bought the We-Vibe. This was a big drop for us, as our previous sex toys were between $20…

This article first appeared at AskDanAndJennifer.com So, you’ve talked the talk, eh? Last time I wrote about starting the discussion about threesomes or swinging, or just a general open relationship discussion with your partner. So let’s assume for the sake of this discussion that you’ve had the talk and gotten the elusive GREEN LIGHT, what now, where do we go from here? Is there a button we can press, maybe on our headboard, that’ll just deposit a swinger couple or unicorn (single female) in our bed? Let’s all just take a moment and think of how nice instant swinger delivery…

I don’t have any issue whatsoever with using masturbators. I mean, most of you probably already know that because of my Fleshlight article series.   But I think it’s somewhat important, because there’s often this attitude that men are given the masturbation equipment from birth (you know, our mitts…) and that should be all we need.  Whereas women, because they’ve traditionally had more difficulty with the big O, have an enormous industry of people looking to help them achieve it while leaving men, by and large, at the back gates scrounging for scraps.  (Like the metaphor?  Me neither…I’m gonna move…

Today I was having a conversation with Holly about what people expect to get out of the lifestyle, and how different those expectations can often be. We came to the conclusion that the expectations people have are just as varied as their reasons for getting into the lifestyle in the first place. But one of the most varied expectations I’ve seen is the variety of interpretations of those looking for “friends first” in the lifestyle. (As opposed to the NSA [No Strings Attached] folk.) Marilyn and I fall into the so called friends first category, as do most of the lifestyle people we associate with. Though lately I’ve been thinking that this idea of friends first is really a misnomer. We’ve gotten to know people a bit, either by going on a date with them, talking to them online, or meeting them through one of our other friends. But have we really become FRIENDS at that point, before we hop into bed?

Sasha insisted that the Nexus Vibro has a microchip in it. “Why?” I asked. She admitted she didn’t know, but insisted it was important and she was getting one to try. Weeks later, she told me that Rob wasn’t interested in trying it, and since I’m clearly “the butt guy” on this website, maybe I’d want to do a review. Again she pointed out the fact that the Nexus Vibro comes equipped with “microchip technology.” “It hones in on your prostate…” she insisted. I shrugged.  “Okay, but that doesn’t make a lot of sense.” So I took the Vibro home. I’d…

Cooper talks about the feedback loop that is erectile dysfunction and going off the pills that helped him keep it up during the tough times.

“With a name like Helmet Hugger…” There’s a reason that I don’t trust most strokers (Re: There’s a reason I ONLY trust Tenga Eggs) they’re mostly shit. When I was handed the helmet hugger by the lovely people at Chicago’s awesome Early To Bed boutique, I looked at it skeptically because it had a lot to live up to, and it wasn’t winning me over with the smarmy picture of “Model:Mike” on the box. The lack of materials listing on the box and that wonderful smell assured me it was made from nothing but the finest phthalates. I mean “jelly.”…

My first anal toy was a set of anal beads that came free with another purchase from Adam & Eve. Unlike most anal beads I’d seen, these were graduated, starting VERY small to medium at the other end, and they weren’t on a string, they were actually attached to one another by the same (probably toxic if you believe everything you read) plastic material that made up the beads themselves. They were a great way to get started because they weren’t that intimidating and you could always stop if it was too much. Flashing forward to present day (with a…

Cooper talks about being disappointed with newbies, changing relationships with friends, and the magnetic pull towards polyamory that he and Marilyn are feeling as swingers.