We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. We are recently married (few months) and have had a couple “experiences” with another couple. Long story short…after the bars we go back to our place and the girls start usually start making out and one things leads to another and we have ended up having same room sex with them a couple of times. My wife always feels guilty afterwards and claims she doesn’t want to do it again, however; we have ended up at their place…
Author: Cooper S. Beckett
Cooper S. Beckett
About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.
Now I have a question. I recently met a woman and we have really hit it off on alot of levels. We’ve been out on “dates” three times in three weeks and has been great. Well over New Years weekend we spent almost 3 days together and finally slept together. Been a long time for her and for me. It was great except for one thing….she is a squirter. Now let me tell you I have no problem with this normally. It’s not a particular kink of mine but not against it. The volume of fluid was incredible and I had to pull out several times just to let her catch her breath. VERY sensitive and orgasmic. Now this may be some guy’s dream and I have to admit it’s a turn on to see a woman that excited, however it can be almost too slippery and I started to lose sensation. She is awesome and we are very compatible both sexually and as a couple. Kendra, I am a very sexual guy who is open to almost anything but I can see this becoming a distraction. A little goes a long way but alot can get in the way. What are your thoughts?
Cooper here with a question that has actually come up for Marilyn and I in the past. We have been in the lifestyle for several years and are a nonsmoking couple. We have met a very nice couple and enjoyed some fun play time with them but have one issue that we are not sure how to broach-both of these people smoke and while we don’t mind playing with people who smoke we find their habit to be a bit too much-they even take turns smoking while we are playing! We leave an evening with them headachy and feeling congested…
For the last couple months, we over here at the Swingset have been really exploring a swinger dating site called Kasidie. We were quite skeptical when we began our exploration because, by and large, the nicer the site looked, the crappier it was (AFF, I’m looking at you) and the best sites were small and regional. I had the same discussion with several lifestyle friends, The Swap-Fus, Barefeatz and Dani Sapphire, and the whole Swingset crew, and we all agreed that what this lifestyle really needs is an overall site. Not necessarily something to ditch your primary site for yet,…
Cooper here with a new category. With our Ask Us Anything page up above, we’ve been getting questions that aren’t really appropriate for the Advice Column, so I thought I’d add a new category, just questions and answers from you, the reader. (If you have a question for us, you can use the form at the bottom of the page!) Today’s question comes from Kara: I have a question about soft swap. I get that it is giving oral sex and not vaginal sex. The question I have is when I give the male oral sex, what is expected? I…
Hey everybody, Cooper here, jumping in for Tyler who’s off conquering the world (yet again) this week. He’ll be back next time, but for now, I’m gonna take care of this time’s “Ask A Swinger” question. It has taken me a while to get around to this, but hopefully you might know the answer to an interesting challenge we have. We have been in the lifestyle for a few years now, playing when we can. We have one guy we play with regularly, the others have not been so ongoing. Recently, when discussing this, we identified an issue, which hopefully…
What do you do, when we both want to watch, but no one wants to play with anyone else? Thanks in Advance, and thank you for all your hard work on the podcast.
It’s not often you come across something that fills exactly the niche you were hoping for, but that’s what happened when I read through The Swinger Manual by Just Ask Julie. See, Marilyn and I haven’t been swinging as long as a lot of our friends, and one of the reasons we started this podcast is to help “newbies in distress.”
Tristan Taormino is an amazing writer and very very thoughtful, humorous, and hits all the right notes in putting together a book that makes you feel better about your decisions about opening up your relationship when so much of society is designed to make us feel bad about that decision.
I know you get lots of email, but I thought I would ask your advice. My wife and i are attending our first swingers party on Saturday and wondered what kind of advice you could give to us. We have yet to play with another couple yet but we really like the hosts but don’t want to focus on them only. Thanks for your time. Richard.