Author: Dr. Ziggy

But, back to the history of the vibrator…. Once upon a time, many, many eons ago, women didn’t have orgasms; at least society tried to tell them they didn’t. If they did experience any type of pleasure from sexual congress they were told that there was something wrong with them, that they should stop enjoying whatever it was that brought them sexual pleasure since that was a sign of nymphomania or worse mental disorder (only women of ill repute and prostitutes did it…) Thus, women developed strange anxiety disorders that rendered them “neurotic”, and in more extreme cases hysterical, and in need of treatment. Sidenote: the term “hysterical” comes form the Greek “hystera” that means uterus; hysterical women were believed to have a traveling uterus that rendered them incapacitated and susceptible to unmanageable emotional disorders.

Let me state the following rather emphatically. There is no sex addiction! There is, however, an attempt to pathologize sexual behaviors society doesn’t approve of, as when we “convince” the “sex-addict” that he/she does indeed have an “addiction”. No one has ever been able to convincingly tell me exactly what a sex addiction is all about. I understand sexual compulsion and associated dysfunctional behaviors….but not addiction. Sexual behaviors that have gone out of control are part of the obsession-compulsion diagnosis, not “sex addiction”. I would hope that indeed this argument would finally end and that individuals with dysfunction could be…

Dr. Ziggy takes a trip to “The Big Easy” to explore the 2010 Naughty in N’awlins Lifestyle convention amid a sea of masks and costumes, and rampant hedonism.

we were chatting about the fantasies and realities of sex in the context of the Lifestyle when the topic of “double penetration” sort of came up

“So, you hang out with swingers, so what are they like?” A friend that was familiar with my research on swinging asked me that question not long ago. “What are ‘they’ like? What do you mean, ‘they’?” I retorted… “Well, aren’t ‘they’ weird? I bet ‘they’ have orgies all the time and can’t get enough of screwing each other…” My friend’s perception of swinging and swingers isn’t much different from that of other non-swingers I have met throughout the years. The idea that swinging is a never-ending orgy of sweaty bodies oozing bodily fluids is alive and well in our…

Dr. Ziggy shares a conversation he had with a friend’s wife about why she wanted to leave the swinging lifestyle, how so many men she meets just seem to stampede from the first moments right for the sex.