Author: Sexy Lexy

I love telling the story of how my partner, Xander, and I got into the lifestyle because it was my suggestion and he was against the idea from the start. I actually had to convince him it was a good idea. I am not under any illusions that our story is different from any of 100 other couples starting out in the lifestyle. But I just get tickled by the fact that Xander was hesitant because, once we tried it, he took to it like a duck to water as the saying goes. You have to understand, dear reader. We…

The next question I get when folks get past the polyamory part of the equation is, how does polyamory work exactly? These folks are most curious about the sex equation because, for some people, it is more comfortable to take my relationship down to its lowest common denominator – sex. It is more comfortable for folks to think I am with my boyfriend and my other lovers because we have great sex. And we do. But our relationship is more about relating to each other than it is about sex, as most relationships should be. My relationship with all of my…

Whenever I reveal that I am polyamorous to someone, the first thing I usually hear is, “I could never do that.” It surprises me when I hear that from almost every monogamist I meet because my first thought upon learning about polyamory and non-monogamy was – “Wow! what a neat concept! I could totally do that.” I consider myself an open-minded, open-hearted kind of woman. I found marriage and most of my adult relationships very constrictive because of the mindset of those I fell in love with or dated. I couldn’t grasp the concepts: just because I fell in love with…

I glance out my window at the beautiful terrain of the Rocky Mountains as we head towards Monarch, Colorado, my body electric with  excitement about our weekend at a mountain swingers festival. Thanks to Exotic Travel, we are about to partake in a full takeover of a mountain clothing optional resort by outdoor enthusiasts, most who are seeking a weekend of adult fun time and friendship. This is our second year at the resort, and I’m especially excited at the amount of people we know at this event, due to our previous involvement with the fun couple who run Exotic…

When I set out to write this, the first official post of this blog, I wanted to allow readers a glimpse into who I was and what I was about, which meant actively engaging the part of my brain and psyche that could answer that question – Who is Lexy? How did she get here? Where was she going and was she happy? I’ve been non-monogamous all my life, even before I knew what it was. Even when I was married and both my ex-husband and I indulged in lurid affairs that destroyed relationships, including ours. I could blame him…

For a while now, my cousin, Kiko, and I have shared dialogue about polyamory and open relationships. I so enjoy these conversations, because, while we rarely agree, we are always respectful with each other about our opinions.  I think I also enjoy it because, like me, he is seeking to understand something that is unfamiliar to him.  My whole life I have struggled with understanding relationships and understand people’s behavior while in relationships. When I was in high school, I was continually amazed by my friends and their ability to declare undying love to one guy, then break up with…