Author: Daisy Wild

It’s Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we’re running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you’d like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It’s booking fast! “How was your trip, did you have fun?” This used to be an easy question to answer.  Now when I answer with a simple, “Yes,” it feels like I’m lying. This is not because I didn’t “have fun” but because it has got to be the…

Read part 1 here. I thought that my first sentence to part 2 would say, “And we fucked like bunnies for 4 days.” But that would be like trying to sum up the first part of a romance novel in one sentence. And it would also not be a true. I’ll skip to the end and tell you the trip was amazing and we are feeling even more connected and excited about our relationship. And the “first kiss” wound up feeling much more like kissing a lover you haven’t seen in a while. Familiar and delicious. This should have been…

I had to write about this because even I don’t quite believe what I’m about to do. Tomorrow morning I get on a plane and fly to another country for the weekend, to shack up with a guy who I’ve only sorta met (more on that in a bit) while my hubby holds down the fort at home.   It all started at an amazing place called Desire Resort & Spa in Mexico. Except it didn’t really “start” there. I met this guy in the hot tub the first night we arrived. Someone said, “Daisy this is Todd (not his…

Yesterday I spent the whole day connecting nearly every hour of the day with a sexy friend via text and I still feel him in my cells. I feel the delicious tether of a juicy emotional connection.   Today I’ve connected with sexy friend #1 a bit but not nearly as much. I can feel the vacancy. However, I have a phone date with another sexy friend tonight. In this moment they are occupying the same heart space. Which by the way, my husband has already occupied for 20 years.    Tomorrow a former lover comes to visit. He occupied…

I know that when I text, “Good Morning!” to one of my lovers that it is coming from my heart. I thought about him at the start of my day and was inspired to let him know through a text. Then I happened to do the same with two more gentlemen friends and a lady friend. All the while, I was still feeling like it was a kind, thoughtful gesture. In fact, each one gave me a unique warm or tingly feeling! Why is it then, that when I get an unsolicited, “Good Morning Sexy!” text from a lover, I…

When I took my vows on my wedding day I thought I was finally done with dating, done with boyfriend woes, and that I certainly would be done with break ups. Boy was I wrong! Here I am, 2 years into an open relationship (after 18 years of monogamy) and I am grieving the loss of a love and it’s not my husband. What the fuck!? This man was officially my first love outside of my marriage. And it happened in the beginning, during a time we were only identifying ourselves as “swingers” which meant to us that we were not…

What do you call your relationships? In hetero monogamy, it was one of a few choices that both parties agreed on with little debate: boy/girlfriend, fiancée, husband/wife. In an open relationship, I’m finding it to not be as easy. Is it something that both partners need to agree on? Or can you think of him as your boyfriend but to him you are good friends?   That is what is on my mind this week. As a monogamish person (I fall somewhere on the spectrum between swinging and poly- thank you Dan Savage) I find myself in a relationship (I…