Author: Marc

When we began to discuss our plans for Burning Man this year we talked about the idea of a recommitment ceremony to honor our 25th year together. A ceremony not as a symbolic gesture, but an opportunity to redefine our marriage to reflect who we are today, both as individuals and as a couple. As the day got closer, we worked on creating a ceremony informed by our experiences and the advise and wisdom gathered since first discussing the concept of leaving monogamy behind to seek out new sexual experiences and relationships. In writing our vows I researched a wide…

After many years of secrets and shame, I told my wife that I had always been curious to experience sex with a man and that I was far kinkier than I had shared. I had denied this part of myself, repression wrapped in shame and hidden away from the world. Opening up to these secrets led to a series of conversations with my wife where I shared all of myself for the first time. While she was surprised, she did not run or feel betrayed. Instead, she worked to understand me and in the process got in touch with her…

On the week of our 20th anniversary my wife, Kat, and I officially became swingers. We met a couple we first spoke to online for dinner, and went back to their place for a foursome that went late into the night. On the drive home, we sat in stunned silence interrupted by laugher; as what we did that night felt unreal. We were liberated by the sexual freedom and adventure we shared; yet what we did went against everything society had taught us about what marriage is. When I asked Kat how she felt about what we had done, she looked me in the eye and said that she felt no shame and had no regrets.