Author: Mrs Doubleplay

A week ago, I was soaking up my last day at Desire, which always turns into a bit of a frenzy on the last day. We have things we want to do, but instead I quickly slip into my daily Desire mode on each trip. My daily Desire schedule usually consists of the following: -Wake up just in time for the end of breakfast, around 10. Make sure to drink the jugo de verde (green drink), as it will get rid of my hangover from the night before. Eat lots of papaya. -Beach volleyball at 11. If I mess up…

The secret to ethical non-monogamy for me is the concept of compersion. The idea that I can find pleasure in seeing my partner gain pleasure with another. Without compersion, our escapades, currently a polyamorous foursome, could feel like a pulling apart from one another to be with someone else. It could feel like an “I’ll let him have his fun so I can have mine” scenario. With compersion, being with another brings us closer together. Compersion makes love expand instead of compartmentalizing it. It makes tender emotions grow. Compersion has become physical for me. I can now orgasm just by…

As we dive deeper into the world of polyamory, I find myself making clear distinctions between love and partnership. To me, it’s the difference between my primary relationship and my secondary relationship. With my primary marriage, partnership is fundamental. We make decisions together about our children, our household, our goals and plans. We have a lot of logistical issues to work out. We have to deal with a lot of unpleasant stuff along with the fun of spending time together. Having a second gives us the gift of experiencing love without having to negotiate partnership. We don’t have to be…

I had a business trip to Philadelphia recently and Mr. D and I had the opportunity to check out the club Saints and Sinners. It was a Friday night. The place was beautiful. Very attractive dance floor and bar area. Plenty of play space down below. Very clean and classy looking. The owners were very friendly. And yet it happened to be an off night. There were 8 people in the place total. We ended up chatting at the bar with the only other couple that we found who might be a fit with us. They were fun and flirtatious, and…

Mr. Doubleplay and I have slowed down our swinger ways. And, therefore, my apologies for the lack of blogs lately. We are spending too much time with our long-term boyfriend/girlfriend. We are in love. The dating/meet and greet part of swinging seemed like a bit of a hassle compared to those two. They are fabulously hot and live close by. It is next to impossible to find other dates who compare to their looks and amazing vibe. We are in the midst of a full on polyamory crush right now. Yet we are also realizing that swinging and polyamory are…

Mr. D and I decided to try our first Couple’s Cruise—4000 Lifestyle folks on Royal Caribbean Ship. We left from Tampa and visited Grand Cayman and Playa del Carmen. As veterans of Desire, I was hesitant to go anywhere else. So I found myself constantly comparing the experience to a Desire trip. Overall, the cruise was a fun experience, but I think it took one trip to get a sense in terms of rhythm regarding how to make the most of the trip. Hopefully our insights can help some of you. Clientele. While the ship was large, it had a…

Mr. D. and I use the term “vanilla plus” so often that we assume everyone knows what we mean. It’s a super helpful concept. We use it to describe people who are not “out” as being in the lifestyle. And they may have no intentions of ever actually participating in the lifestyle. But they still have that open vibe that we love in the lifestyle world. Vanilla plus people are confident, sexy, and willing to take risks. They laugh and share of themselves (although perhaps not physically like we do). They embrace life and are willing to accept those different…

The other day, my lifestyle boyfriend sent me a song, saying, “The song Trouble by Chris Rene. …So you.” The lyrics go, “That girl is trouble, trouble, she always wants to take off her clothes…” I replied back that the song Nice and Slow by Usher should be the theme song for our night last week when we went to his cabin in the woods and fucked for 2 1/2 hours without interruption. “Feels like a playlist coming on,” he told me. And thus began the Polyamorous Playlist Project. Most of the songs fit a range of lifestyle preferences, but…

Since Mr. D and I don’t get to go out to lifestyle clubs more than once every few months, we used to really be very focused on trying to find a play opportunity during those visits. This weekend was the first time that we had gone to a club since we’ve been in a long-term polyamorous relationship (see previous blogs nightmare or ultimate fantasy) I was curious to notice how my goals in interest for the evening would be markedly different than they have been just a few months before. For the first time that evening, I no longer viewed…

Mr. D and I had the chance to go to a club in a town a few hours away one weekend. We don’t get out much, and certainly not to the club in this far away city. A rare opportunity for some fun. We always like to try to set up dinner with a couple before going to a club that we can have a starting base. That way we can start to get to know someone before we come into the club scene. That night, we had a lovely meal with a local couple. Very flirty conversation. Interest was…