Author: Mrs Doubleplay

I am writing this en route to the annual holiday party at our local on-premise swinger’s club. Our club is an hour and a half away from where we live. There are no hotels nearby, however, so we have to drive home at the end of the night. It makes for a very late evening by the time that we get home, so we don’t get there often. To make such a long trip, we try to go during one of the big events, such as Halloween or Christmas. Other times of year we check to see who is listed…

Living in the middle of nowhere, it is rare to find a hot couple close to home. As such, I admit to having a lot more patience with local hot newbie couples than I tend to have at a club or weekend away to a sexy place. We courted one such young, newbie couple for a few months. Our first few “dates” were just drinks. And we didn’t even really talk about anything sexy. They were skittish, questioning, worried. I didn’t think anything would come of those meetings. But they were very cool people. Cool enough that I invited them…

During our week visit to Cancun this year, we hit a bit of the mid-week doldrums. Wednesday is often a quiet day at Desire. The resort tends to be at a lower capacity and the energy just feels a bit sluggish sometimes. So, we thought it was a good day to go exploring. With two other hot couples, we hopped a cab to explore the “other” resort—Desire Pearl. Bottom line for us, the people make the party. One of our hot couples that came with us to Pearl had spent the prior week at Pearl with a lifestyle takeover event.…

Learning how to politely say “no” is an important skill in the Lifestyle. It is especially so when going on a date with another couple. We try to choose our dates carefully by reading their profile, looking at pictures, and having an email exchange. we look for quality pictures that are in focus and give us a sense of who we might be meeting. The written profile is just as important. We are extra excited if we find wit, intelligence, and humor in the paragraphs. Really short profiles or profiles with many misspelled words and grammatical errors are a red…

We are at the beach with our extended family. Kids are running about. Grandparents are resting on the deck. Siblings are floating in and out. A bucolic week on the shore. Except that Mr. D. is quietly texting five local couples. We are holding out hope that one might come through and be available to go out on a night when the stars align and we can slip away for a few hours. “Where are you going?” the relatives ask. “Why not go out with your brother and his wife?” “What is there to do on a Tuesday night?” We…

The last few months Mr. D and I have been trying to increase our success rate in the Lifestyle. Ultimately, the Lifestyle is a numbers game—for us at least, only half of the plans that we try to make work out. And from talking to friends that is typical. So we are trying to increase the times we get out there and have dates. We are also trying to attend Meet and Greets whenever possible to increase the possibility o. As a part of to this strategy, we have come to appreciate the value of the Meet and Greets—Lifestyle socials…

I, Mrs. Doubleplay, will be turning the big 4-0 in two weeks. It has naturally been the subject of many conversations with my vanilla friends. I am reluctant to share the news with my lifestyle friends, however. While I know many fabulous ladies in the swinging lifestyle who are over 40 — over 50 even — I acknowledge some losses in turning 40. Or at least I perceive them as losses right now. First, meeting couples. We live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. We already swim in a very small lifestyle pond. I worry that in…

Six years into the Lifestyle, I’m still amazed at how awkward it can be for swingers to “get things started.” We’ll meet couple for drinks and then all agree on either a hotel or coming back to our place or theirs. It’s “on” as they say. We all know why we’re there. But once we arrive and there is a bed not so far away (or we are even sitting on the bed) it can be very hard to get naked. Even with fellow veteran couples. Even with people we have people with whom we have played in the past.…

Our last two lifestyle experiences have been rather frustrating for me, Mrs. D. After a four-month hiatus due to business travel, I was ready to get fucked. And while I truly enjoy seeing my husband fuck hot women, I have felt short-changed in recent adventures as both times the male in the relationship has had performance issues. Mr. D and I have been talking about contacting a single guy, but we were afraid to take that step. We certainly had been discussing it during our dirty talk in the bedroom. But in reality? A scary next step for us! Our…

Another blog, another story of meeting a couple fairly new to the lifestyle and yet interested in a full swap situation with a husband who has erectile dysfunction. I am a frustrated gal, I tell you. So I’m just going to tell it like it is. Consider the letter below an etiquette guide for men having trouble “getting it up” in a swinger situation. Dear Swinger Man Who Is Having Trouble Getting It Up, If it ain’t happening, own up that it ain’t happening. But realize that all is not lost. The key to that realization is that it’s…