Author: Multiamory

Multiamory is happy to have author, podcast host, and pegging enthusiast Cooper S. Beckett back on the show! Cooper came on our show way back in the early days to discuss his memoir, My Life on the Swingset, and this week we are discussing his brand new novel, Approaching the Swingularity. Join us for a discussion on sexy, swinging vacations, the intersection of swingers and polyamorists, and the delights of pegging. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content…

This week, we are discussing privilege and polyamory — the different advantages and disadvantages that we often forget about when approaching non-traditional relationships. This is a hot-button topic that often sparks emotions and defensiveness, but we wanted to open up the conversation, daunting as it is. In this episode, we discuss many different factors that affect privilege — race, class, skin color, gender identity, disability, just to name a few in a very long list. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here. This week’s…

Multiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book What Love Is and What It Could Be. Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying “real love,” she was inspired to get to the bottom of the age old question: what is love? In this episode, we deconstruct our preconceived ideas of love and commitment, and also why it is important for people in non-monogamous relationships to examine the nature of romantic relationships. If you want to support our show, the best…

This week, the Multiamory crew tackles a divisive and controversial subject: the Red Pill movement. The Red Pill movement, in our estimation, is equal parts men’s rights and pick-up artistry, sprinkled with a dose of good old-fashioned misogyny. But a growing number of men are finding community, understanding, and confidence in the Red Pill’s tenets. Is there anything good that could possibly come from this movement? Or is it really the sexist cesspool it seems to be on the surface? If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In…

If you’ve hit a particularly sticky bump in your relationship, or if you’re interested in doing some preventative maintenance and exploration, it is extremely helpful to seek professional guidance. Speaking with a therapist, counselor, or coach can provide many opportunities to open up and uncover deep-seated habits and patterns, plus really giving yourself and your relationships much-needed clarity. In this episode, we explain the many different varieties of mental health professionals, as well as our recommendations for the best places to find kink- and poly-friendly therapists and counselors. Check out the KAP directory here: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage Check out The Open List here: http://openingup.net/open-list/…

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene — how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy — categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here or asking at your local bookstore. If you want to…

Unicorn hunters (heterosexual couples seeking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship) get a bad rap in the polyamorous community. But is it possible to defy this stereotype and add a third to your relationship in a way that’s ethical, kind, and groovy for all parties involved? In this special live show recorded in Los Angeles, the Multiamory crew discusses the ins and outs of making sure that your unicorn is ethically raised and sourced. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here or asking…

Multiamory is in Portland! In this special, live-audience episode, we explore solo polyamory. The solo poly crowd is an often-misunderstood, yet significant portion of the non-monogamous community at large, and this week we uncover the many different ways solo polyamory can be practiced, examine couple privilege, and learn all about amatonormativity. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here or asking at your local bookstore. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In…

The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine’s Day itself. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here or asking at your local bookstore. If you want to support our show, the best way…

This week’s episode was recorded during Multiamory’s very first stop on their West Coast Tour 2017! Every seat in the house at Octopus Literary Salon in Oakland, California was full as we presented a talk on the 7 habits of highly effective polyamorous people. Drawing inspiration from our mentors and role models, we break down the key qualities found in the happiest and healthiest non-traditional relationships. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by clicking here or asking at your local bookstore. If you want to support…