Author: Multiamory

What is solo polyamory? Ask anyone in the poly community, and you’re bound to get a wide range of answers. Some people see solo polyamorists as “free agents” who keep all relationships at arm’s length. Others identify as solo polyamorists because they don’t want to be considered part of a couple, or because they don’t want to subscribe to relationship hierarchy. In this episode, we puzzle over the myriad forms of solo polyamory, and how the solo polyamorist can avoid others trivializing their relationships. We also address a listener email and explore how solo polyamory can work with child-rearing. If…

If you’ve read much about polyamory you’ve definitely come across the term “compersion.” The word was created in the early 90’s to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person’s joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in open relationships because it will make you a better partner and will make you feel happier. But how do you actually do that? Lots of people talk about how great compersion is but few people really look at techniques and ways of thinking to help…

We’ve finally launched our Patreon page! To celebrate, the Multiamory crew is getting naked, figuratively and literally! This week, we bare all for our listeners, sharing our intimately personal stories of good times and bad, sexual exploration, gender identity, losing our virginities, and our favorite cusswords. If you want to watch the video from this week’s episode, head on over to our Patreon page: patreon.com/multiamory Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show. Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit…

No one likes to talk about break-ups. Unless they’ve just broken up with someone, then it’s all they can talk about. Break-ups challenge our beliefs about the enduring quality of true love, but they are an unfortunate reality when having multiple relationships. Unfortunately, having multiple partners does not make break-ups any less difficult. In this episode, we give you advice on how to determine it’s the right time to leave, including the one question to ask yourself if you’re questioning whether or not it’s time to end a relationship. We also how to consider if your relationship might be better…

The Multiamory crew have often discussed strategies for finding dating partners through online dating. But what about finding partners in real-life? Can you find poly-friendly partners out at a bar? How do you flirt while also conveying important information about your lifestyle? We give you a collection of our favorite tips for flirting while out and about, including the best ways to make connections at poly meetups and making agreements for wingman/wingwoman-ing for your partner. And exclusive for our Multiamory podcast listeners, we explain our individually patented flirting techniques: Jase’s Conversational Gambit, Emily’s Direct Declaration, and Dedeker Throws the Book…

At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners’ relationships. Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout…

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives — at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you’re in an alternative relationship. The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That’s a thing, right?) More great info on breaking negative or jealous thought patterns here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-forward/201512/what-do-when-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-it Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at…

This week, the Multiamory crew addresses question we get from our listeners all the time: how do I broach the subject of opening up my relationship? If you’re currently in a monogamous relationship, and you’re curious about opening it up, even the thought of suggesting it to your significant other may be unnerving. In this episode, we give you specific strategies for bringing up the conversation and taking your first steps together toward opening your relationship. We’ll give you tactics to approach this talk in a way that’s unthreatening, collaborative, and will ideally be as comfortable as possible for both…

Are some people purely polyamorous and other people are completely monogamous? How can we reconcile these differences? What should I do about jealousy? What kind of polyamorous relationship is right for me? In our interview with counselor, hypnotherapist, and author Kathy Labriola we get to hear her insights into all of this and more! Some of the topics we cover in this episode: The poly to mono spectrum (like the Kinsey Scale) The “bisexuals” of mono-poly Breakdown of the 3 major polyamorous relationship styles What to do when you and a partner are on different sides of the spectrum We’ve…

Our culture is steeped in notions of traditional romance. In so many love songs we hear, “You’re the only one for me.” Our movies, TV shows, and dozens of other art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, the star-crossed lovers. Our notions of “romance” are still heavily tied up to sexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do you get all mushy and romantic when you can’t fall back on the usual monogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways that art and media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to make your partners feel…