Author: Multiamory

Multiamory’s mission is to provide awareness and education about the ethical practice of non-monogamy through entertaining and accessible content. Multiamory.com is an information resource, blog, and podcast created by Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from lots of research and years of personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

We all know what it feels like to experience FOMO — fear of missing out. Whether it’s scrolling through Facebook and seeing how much more fun everyone else seems to be having, or it’s sitting at home watching a partner head out on an exciting date with a new partner, FOMO can make us feel anxious, angry, frustrated, or just plain sad. This week, we talk about the different pieces of FOMO, how social media can make it worse, and how to counteract it. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our…

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“We’ve all heard the saying, “”You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.”” But is that actually true? This week, the Multiamory crew explores positive psychology, gratitude, and fostering personal wellbeing in your relationships. Myers-Briggs vs VIA: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-matters-most/201405/myers-briggs-or-survey-character-strengths www.AuthenticHappiness.org ” If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about…

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The Multiamory crew is in Tokyo! In this very special live episode recorded at Good Heavens British Pub in Setagaya, we discuss how increasing your cultural intelligence can boost your understanding and communication, particularly when dating someone from a very different culture. マルチアモリーの仲間が、東京にやってきました!ポリアモリー、セクシュアリティ、キンク、リレーションシップについての示唆に富んだ議論を楽しみ、参加者と交流し、ポッドキャストのライブ収録の機会にご参加ください。マルチアモリーのミッションは、倫理的な非一夫一婦制の実践についての知識と教育を、楽しく親しみやすい内容を通して提供することです。Multiamory.com は、Emily Matlack、Jase Lindgren、そして「The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory」の著者であるDedeker Winstonによる、情報リソース、ブログ、ポッドキャストです。意識的な一夫一婦制から、倫理的ポリアモニー、そして急進的なリレーションシップアナーキーまで、愛の多様な形式について、新しいアイデアやアドバイスを提供します。私たちの長年にわたる個人的な経験と、現在利用可能な最高の情報を組み合わせ、それを楽しく示唆に富んだ、そしてあなたのリレーションシップに簡単に適用できる方法で提案します。 With Interpreter: Without Interpreter: If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions. You can order…

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The Multiamory crew is excited to welcome Jessica Graham, meditation teacher, mindfulness coach, and author of the new book Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. Jessica answers all of our questions about mindful sex, ethical porn, naturally boosting your sex drive, and much more. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions. You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to…

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This week we are talking about expectations — a force for both good and evil! The expectations we bring to a relationship can have a significant effect on how happy or unhappy we are as the relationship unfolds. In this episode we’ll uncover both unhealthy and healthy expectations to have for a relationship or a partner, plus the most effective ways to let go of expectations that may be mismatched with your partner. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new…

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This week we are talking about sexual incompatibility and infidelity. Opening up about sex is often a challenging and vulnerable part of any relationship, and it can cause some relationships to implode. Today we are going to offer some stits and stats regarding sexual incompatibility, sexual changes over time, and how non-monogamy can shape and help sexual differences in a relationship. We also will talk about infidelity and why it can happen even in seemingly happy relationships. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us…

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This week we’re speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she’s learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease, and compassion. You can find more of Kitty’s work at lovingwithoutboundaries.com. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get…

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Multiamory loves The Beatles, but we take issue with the assertion that love is all you need. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of what is traditionally “magical” thinking surrounding love and relationships. If you’re in a relationship that is dysfunctional, codependent, or making you miserable all in the name of love, here’s where you can learn valuable tools to evaluate whether your relationship has a leg to stand on, or if it may be time to leave. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to…

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What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn’t really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one’s relationships, whether you’re monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy, and ways to bring these qualities of consciousness into a monogamous relationship. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also…

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We’re very pleased to speak with Ruby Bouie Johnson, sex therapist and founder of PolyDallas Millennium, an annual symposium of presentations and workshops on polyamory with a focus on centering people of color, queer, and gender fluid voices. Ruby shares with us her thoughts on the need for an intersectional focus in poly communities, handling tokenism, and the value that a polyamory- and kink-friendly therapist can bring to a client who may be monogamous or vanilla. You can find more of Ruby’s work at www.polydallasmillennium.com www.facebook.com/polydallas www.twitter.com/polydallas You can order Dedeker’s book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need…

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