Author: Life on the Swingset

It’s no secret that in the pantheon of the LGBT spectrum, bisexual people are looked down upon, told they don’t really exist, avoided in dating life. Bisexuals also often feel less pressure to come out, as they can so easily pass as one side or the other. Paradoxically, this leads to bi invisibility and erasure, so we discuss, and make an attempt to deconstruct this in today’s episode of Life on the Swingset, along with Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper, and Dylan. Today’s episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that…

As couples, so often we’re looking for the third. The unicorn usually. They’re rare, seemingly unobtainable, but when we find them it’s just so magical. Except that we’re often boxing that unicorn in, that single person who now has to put up with our pre-established couples dynamic and the fact that if we ghosted it’d be as a pair. Yep, tonight we’re talking about couples privilege and what that means for the third so many of us are seeking. On this episode of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast, we discuss how being a couple changes the dynamic when looking…

We all send dirty comments, dirty pictures, full on sext-travaganzas with our partners, playmates, friends straddling the edge of naughty. Tonight we’re joined by the Swinging MILF herself, Sally Swings to talk about sending each other dirty pictures and messages through sexting. Today’s episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store. The Swingset crew starts by discussing the difference between different types of sexting, “the tease”, and the “taking it…

When people consider exploring non-monogamy, we tell them to picture a pretty good but occasionally difficult relationship (ie, every relationship) and then picture it expanding exponentially because you’ve added more people. Eventually becoming a tesseract of interlocking and interconnected parts. Each of those parts, believe it or not, have a mind of their own. We’ve all been in moments where it seems insurmountable, where we acknowledge that this whole damned thing is just too hard and consider the days of monogamous yore. We discuss what pushes us to the edge, and what keeps us going, because playing with and loving…

It’s pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you’d talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real world can cause some serious “knocked on your ass” moments. Tonight we talk about how to process boundary violations, safer sex failures, and the importance of compassion throughout the process. Dylan relayed his recent protection failure story, consisting of a condom sliding off…

There are few acts in the pantheon of sexuality that carry with them so much intrigue, coveting, and fear, as double penetration, and its more advanced siblings double vaginal and double anal. For one thing, these really can’t be done in a monogamous relationship. Oh sure, we can use dildos and such things, but that’s not really where the intrigue lies, does it? We discuss double penetration or “DP” in its many forms and talk other varsity level sexual moves. Thank you to SheVibe for always being awesome, and to SexyLosers for “schlick”. Help us out Swingset Fans!…

While we’re pretty good on the Swingset at talking about our experiences in polyamory and swinging, We have limits to our shared experience, so we reached out and asked Mike Joseph to join the Swingset and speak to us about his experience navigating dating and polyamory as a person of color. We discussed some of the challenges dating couples, Dylan called the question: “Why should we have to convince people that doing the right thing will improve their lives, when they should just do the right thing?” regarding diversity. We asked about, and Mike spoke about the advantages and challenges of being unique…

Ginger takes the cords of the mailbag and sits down with Dylan and a LIVE STUDIO AUDIENCE as they answer listener questions for the 29th Gang Bang the Mailbag! The Swinger Doc also sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on risks associated with hot tub sex! Questions in this Gang Bang the Mailbag include: My husband and I opened our relationship about a year ago, and have both developed deep connections with other partners but haven’t dipped our toes into the swinging side of things. I now have a few fun potential opportunities…

Cooper gets the night off as Ginger makes herself available to Dylan to discuss his attraction to breasts, and his fear that they are the focus of too much attention and energy. The Swinger Doc sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on how to find high quality sex positive and nonmonogamy friendly medical care, and answers a question on anonymous STI testing. See the following resources for more information: Judgment Free Health Care Directory (JFHCP) Kink Aware Professionals Directory (NCSF) Locate a Professional directory (AASECT) STDcheck.com Help us out Swingset Fans! While…

All three of us here on the Swingset have occasionally dated and played independent of our partners, and all three of our partners have dated and played independent of us. A moment that can be tricky, especially early on in the swinging or poly lifestyles, is that moment of re-entry, where our partner (or us) returns from a date or play session. We take time to dissect how re-entry feels when you’re the partner “left behind”, and when you’re the partner on the go. Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a…