Author: Life on the Swingset

We’ve all been in situations that we were really… REALLY eager to be in…. then realize in the moment maybe we don’t want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don’t want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how to get a handle on your own emotions both in the moment and after, we relay some of our strategies in communicating lack of enthusiasm for the act without accidentally conveying lack of enthusiasm for the person, and take care of some “business”. Apparently your…

In the wake of both Fetlife and Adult Friend Finder getting their content and naughty secrets scraped and posted online, there has been a renewed discussion about secrecy and privacy in swinging & polyamory. Katie Mack joins us to discuss these topics and think about what it means to be secretive, how it relates to our own private closets and give you suggestions on maintaining your cone of privacy in the modern Internet age. Social networks, dating & swinging sites, privacy v. secrecy, photos, (more) secure payment methods, burner phones and email accounts are all on the table. Here’s a…

We took over #SexTalkTuesday to discuss sexual fuckit lists, answer questions about Risk-Aware Sex, explore the discussion about Bisexual Men in the lifestyle, how we define Orgies, and labels! You can find more at SexTalkTuesday.com! Head over to Reddit.com/r/SwingsetFM to dig deeper into anything we discussed here! [View the story “#SexTalkTuesday with Life on the Swingset!” on Storify] Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas Technogeisha

Welcome to our 21st Gang Bang the Mailbag! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that’s 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.comAs always we want to remind those of you at home to tweet along with us at #sspodcast We address a “The Professor” callout from a listener on the definition of monogamy, a listener looking for advice on an MFM in Tokyo, large age differences between partners in swinging, a listener whose wife kind of wants out of non-monogamy, and the trials and tribulations of being with a partner who…

Believe it or not, our voicemail gang bang overflowed and we were left with extra voicemails. With that in mind, we’ve collected some listener emails to do our twentieth mailbag gangbang! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that’s 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. All questions have been edited to fit in the space allowed. We discuss meeting opposite partners before private dates, expectations and consent, making the first move at clubs, soft swapping with single males and solidifying rules as newbies as well as getting over boundary violations. Tonight’s…

Holy shit, Shira B. Katz is here! … and she’s causing trouble! … and she starts a wonderful conversation with Ginger about mindfulness! ….and she asks what we’ve been doing with our lives and we update her with an episode almost entirely about “our business” which included the introduction of the term relationship anarchy. It was a pleasure and we hope it happens again. J …also “dumping with Dylan” may become a thing now. And I guess “Just the Tip with Dylan Thomas”. Maybe. Whatever. We reference Headspace (the website that apparently treats your head right) and Dr. Dan Siegel’s…

Adult film star, author, sex educator, outspoken feminist and advocate for sexual acceptance Nina Hartley joins and honors us with a conversation on the Swingset. Nina was a pioneer of sex positivity before sex positivity was a thing. A prolific performer, an outspoken feminist and an advocate for sexual acceptance (as a board member of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance), Nina is the sexual freedom fighter we all admire. We are deeply honored to welcome her onto the Swingset. After Nina leaves, Dylan responds to an email we received regarding our latest Bedcast by both acknowledging our own failings and…

Vacations. Aren’t they great? But you know what’s better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who’ve never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Beginners episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more. We discuss remembering…

Adult film star and filmmaker jessica drake has seen the porn industry through some of its most radical and affecting changes, and has moved herself from star to writer to educator with her jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex Series. Tonight she’s joining us to discuss this evolution of an industry. We chat about how the industry deals with the double edged sword of the Internet, the difference between porn as entertainment and porn as education, cyber bullying, and we giggled about sitting on the floor crosslegged. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want…

Way back in 2011 Life on the Swingset issued a pleasure quest. Find a quality ejaculating dildo. Over the years, we did NOT find quality dildos, we DID find Miko, though, so it was a win over all. Tonight we have Steph Berman with us, creator of The Semenette, the best ejaculating dildo we’ve ever seen, to talk with us about simulacrum genitals. We spoke at length about the original mission of The Semenette, to provide a way for partners to conceive and still connect in a sexy and fun way, and opened up to possibilities of users and partners…