Author: Life on the Swingset

Here at Life on the Swingset we’ve had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven’t gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about. We discuss opening up to include the possibility to polyamory, creampies, pegging, and all in all… just sit back, get comfortable, and catch up. It’s been far, far too long since we all chatted. Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check…

I has been a while since anyone here on the Swingset could consider themselves “new to this” but it behooves us to every once in a while put ourselves back into that new and nervous state, where everything was the first time, and we were discovering as we go. We don’t have a lot of great models of healthy non-monogamy these days. Learning to advocate for our partners and ourselves, figuring out what we want and how to ask for it, learning the difference between a request, an offer, and an invitation, and all in all… having fun, is what…

Flirting is perhaps the most important aspect of beginning any romantic and sexual relationship. As Swingers you really need to be on top of your flirting. Since we meet so many people in non-monogamy, how do we know when to start flirting, and how do we make it work for us? We’re including this as an unofficial companion to our “Swinging for Dummies” series since it just feels right, so take a listen and hear about how to get new interactions going, with the flirt, and with our friend Reid Mihalko! Also… for what the defintion of “is” is… Visit…

Cooper does a one man show Primer on Swinging recorded live at The Pleasure Chest in Chicago. All audience questions have been replaced by the dulcet tones of our own Dylan Thomas for their protection, and also for the amusement of our listeners. Class description: “Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you’re brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there’s something here for everyone.” Give us a call and…

When as adults we don’t know what’s going on with our sexuality, it can most often be chalked up to a lack of education. Education about risk, sure, but also education about the awesome things sex can bring. One woman looking to combat in a big way this lack of education is Megan Andelloux who speaks on an amazing variety of sexuality related topics at colleges across the nation. We discuss abstinence only education, glbtq awareness, sexual fluidity and identity, safer and risk aware sex, and the perils of teaching newly minted adults about the basics of biology and orgasm.…

We still tend to treat the single male swinger as a problem, a pariah, when we host parties we wonder how to limit unpartnered male responses, we tense up at larger events where the male to female ratio may be wildly unbalanced, we are constantly on the lookout for the creep, the man who doesn’t take no well, the recluse. But really. What the fuck? We’re all just people, and we all just like to fuck, and when it comes down to it, we all know single men that have brought great joy, and great orgasms to many of ours…

Handjobs and Fingering! Now that we have your attention, we want everyone to remember that there’s lots of pleasure to be hand through the wonders of the partnered manual stimulation of someone’s genitals with fingers! Now that you’re obviously terribly turned on, take a listen and you’ll hear us setting a solid definition of what counts as a handjob and a discussion on different terms and euphemisms for it, talking about how to give and receive risk aware handjobs, and talk about why we’d even bother giving handjobs when we can put penises in peoples’ vaginas! Pay extra attention, Ginger…

We tie up the mailbag today, after a double dose of answering your questions we’re shelving the mailbag (for a bit). We took and answered a question about erections, specifically that even after obtaining a prescription for viagra that a gentlemen still experiences trouble while swinging and that it’s resulted in less return couples than he and his wife are happy with; Ginger is a big fan of people getting what they need, Cooper and Dylan relay their experiences and strategies about expectations and Miko really just lays down the law and says “it doesn’t matter”. We continue on with…

Today we stick all our collective hands into our mailbag and pull your questions out! We’re back for our twelfth Mailbag Gang Bang! We tackle questions about the black ring right hand movement, about discovering people you work with on swinger sites, on playing spontaneously with STIs, on attempting to open up after cheating, on judging people based on looks, and on swinging as a single male. Enjoy! Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up and Paul Joannides’ Guide to Getting it On! Give us a call…

DP. DVP. DAP. Today, we discuss double penetration, double vaginal penetration, and double anal penetration, and not just the acts themselves. The act of any sort of double penetration requires thoughtfulness, planning, collaboration, communication, really just enhanced versions of all the skills we learned via trial by fire while finding our own ways into non-monogamy. As DP really is “professional grade” fucking we break it down into the basics, positions, risk-aware practices and being mindful of condom on condom friction, maintaining sufficient erections, being comfortable touching cocks, and we move onto how great it feels and how in the moment…