Author: Life on the Swingset

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn’t do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It’s, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It’s organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade because they participate in ethical business practices. We discuss feminist porn with Dylan Ryan and talk about the movement at large. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the NJoy Fun Wand! You can find Ashley Manta…

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all… how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the soon to be renamed Hitachi Magic Wand! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard…

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people’s sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and … well Cooper’s metaphors are terrible but it’s ok… we’ll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc…), communication and negotiation, and … get distracted. A lot. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Trustex Flavored Condoms, also available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com,…

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people’s sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We’re focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, “I want to eat your pussy”. So… dinner is served. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out Lixx Dental Dams, available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed…

Lets Fuck. Yeah… that doesn’t usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there’s a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don’t always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I’m not ok with this situation…

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up! We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really… we just slide organically from one topic to another until we’ve burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said “hey… that’s a big hole”.

We’re back! All four of us! That’s right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together! We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there’s a towel around… just in case. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out Hathor Organic Flavored Lube (Hazelnut Caramel Perhaps?)

Sometimes it’s hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what’s going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes… it’s just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing “the creep”. We… well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and…

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Je Joue Mimi for a rechargeable vibrator that has bigger power on the inside than…

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people. Also, the hotel couldn’t wait to rid themselves of our presence. We made so many friends over the weekend, why couldn’t the hotel staff be some of them? Oh Cooper, my mistake, you DID make a friend over a discussion about anal play. Well done. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and…