Author: Raven Harte

Based upon the Ep 33 of Christopher Ryan PhD’s “Tangentially Speaking” podcast with guests Moshe Kasher & Reggie Watts Christopher Ryan PhD, author or “Sex At Dawn” says in this podcast “Monogamy is like vegetarianism, it doesn’t come naturally to our species. It’s an uphill path. That doesn’t mean it’s not a healthy or legitimate path, but just because you decided to be a vegetarian doesn’t mean bacon stops smelling good.” This says to me that monogamy is something that requires conscious effort, which means we should be making monogamy a conscious informed decision agreed upon by BOTH parties involved…

I’m a sex worker. I know it’s a bold statement to make, even on a sex positive website, but to honor my journey AND to help change the perspective and conversation about this topic, I’m saying it. It’s a realization I made on the drive from NC to CatalystCon East in DC in March 2013. I was going through the workshops list recognizing for the first cognizant time, all the different areas of sexuality that I was already working within, when I saw a tract called “How To Be An Ally To Sex Workers.” I turned to my husband and…

Ok my supposedly GGG and affirming brethren, we need to talk. This is RavenHarte and Cooper may regret asking me to start blogging for LOTS because I have a little bit of a bone to pick with you. Yes you SOP community…… and even you hiding over there under the mic. Where in the name of all that is poly did this sudden rise in the reference to non Big-3 spiritualities and disciplines as “woo-woo” amongst sex educators and podcasters come from? HUH? This week alone, while listening to SEVEN, yes seven, different podcasts, I heard over and over again…