I will be honest; I have never been much into BDSM play. I am not sure if it is because I just don’t have the temperament to be submissive or if I have just not had the right experiences. So I don’t know that much about restraints. Granted I have been put in handcuffs (which tend to cut into one’s wrists) and been tied up with rope or bondage tape before, though mostly to be whipped or flogged. As a consequence, I have come to associate restraints with pain. So when told that we had the Spread the Love Bar to…
Author: Zoe
Zoe
Zoe first described herself as "bad at monogamy" until about five years ago when she and her husband discovered the term that actually described her: polyamorous. Since then they have opened their family to other partners. Zoe is currently juggling relationships with her husband, their two kids, her husband's girlfriend, and a slew of friends/loves that she calls her tribal poly family. She can be reached on facebook or on twitter @ZoeHanis
It has been many years since I have had toys to play with in the bathtub. I remember the days when the kids were young. Bath time was one of the most enjoyable and relaxing times of the day. The tub would be filled with rubber duckies, battleships, tugboats and mermaids. The kids could stay in there for at least an hour happily splashing with their toys. Tonight I have my own toys to play with. Big Teaze Toys has sent me a Travel Size I Rub My Duckie and a Retro Rocket. They sit on the side of the…
January was a difficult month for me. For the first time in many years, I was confronted with the death of one I held dear. But it wasn’t the fact that he is gone, so much as my own mortality that struck me to the bone. My life may well be half over and I have accomplished very little. If I die today, would I be remembered? I have told Guy that my biggest fear is that of being replaced; which has lead to feelings of insecurity and jealousy in our relationship. It is a learned fear; learned from previous…
We entered the bedroom and shut the door. He kissed me as his hands began unbuttoning the shirt that Guy had let me borrow. There was something decadent in having my boyfriend’s shirt removed from my body by another man. A man that couldn’t stop devouring me with his eyes and telling me how beautiful and sexy I was. A man that couldn’t stop kissing me. Gods I needed the attention. I had been drained from dealing with so many negative emotions over the two past weeks. Sex had been the furthest thing from my mind, but now my heart…
While finger vibrators have been around for a while, the HELLO TOUCH by Jimmyjane offers a better delivery system than those I have used before. I have always known finger vibes to be bulky, as there needs to be a place for the battery and controls. The HELLO TOUCH has overcome this hurdle by attaching the finger pads to a power pack which is worn on the wrist by thin unobtrusive wires. This design leaves the entire hand free to roam over your partner’s body. The unit is water proof, though the power pack is not to be submerged. So…
When the package arrived from Jimmyjane, I couldn’t wait to tear into it. I am a vibration kind of gal. So when I opened the box and saw the FORM 3, I was excited and couldn’t wait to try it; never mind that I still had a half day of work left and a date later night. Since the FORM 3 has a rechargeable Lithium Polymer battery, I set it up to charge. As it sat on its base, I noticed that it resembled a tongue; if tongues were hot pink and made of silicone. But it was definitely tongue…
My name is Zoe Hanis and this week I got to see the best and the worst of my family in regards to my polyamorous lifestyle. It started with a phone call. My mother-in-law told Hubby that his dad had a fast moving cancer and that he would not last the month. So we rented a car to make the 10 hour drive; me, Hubby, his Girlfriend and the 2 monsters. I had originally wanted Girlfriend along to support Hubby, as I was afraid that I would have my hands full with the kids. But having her along felt right;…
My boyfriend originally introduced me to the Hitachi Magic Wand. He touched it to my clit and I exploded in orgasmic bliss. I loved the thing. So when the Swingset received one to review, I was over the moon. The idea of playing with it on my own sent shivers to my nether regions. When the package came, I eagerly unwrapped it. I was immediately a confused by its packaging and instructions. The box has color photographs of a woman using it on her back, neck, shoulder and calf as well as one with a man using it on his…
My name is Zoe Hanis and I am a polyamorous swinger. I am aware that the phrase “polyamorous swinger” sounds like an oxymoron and sometimes I feel as if it may be. I told Cooper that I needed a word to describe my situation. I thought polyswingamory might work, while he favored swingamory. Though neither really sums up what it means to be involved in both polyamorous and swing relationships, sometimes even simultaneously. It appears that we need better labels; better ways to communicate. Communication seems to be a big issue with Guy and I lately. While we are both…
My name is Zoe Hanis and the New Year is shaping up quite nicely. Guy had taken me to a New Years Party where I met a girl. She was beautiful: tall and slender with long legs and perky breasts. And she allowed me to fuck her. She had been late for dinner. We had already sat down and were working on appetizers when she and her husband arrived. She was taller than him – I didn’t realize how tall she really was until later in the evening, with a pixie cut and snake-like necklace of silver ivy drawing one’s…