So, on a whim, I decided to also get a VCH—a vertical clitoral hood. Very few people get the clitoris itself pierced and doing so could cause nerve damage. Instead, a VCH pierces the hood over the clitoris. The direction of the piercing—vertical or horizontal—depends on the anatomy of the woman, although the VCH is the most common.
I took another trip recently, but this time Mr. Doubleplay stayed home with the kids. While most of my days were filled with business meetings, presentations, and networking dinners, Mr. Doubleplay arranged a special date for me. We had arranged to meet a couple during our last trip to the Big Easy, but a cancelled flight dashed our plans.
I realized that I would need to teach myself to orgasm if I was ever going to orgasm with him. After several failed attempts I figured it out, and as some other bloggers have shared, I realized, “Oh—that’s what I was doing when I wore jeans and squeezed my legs together during a boring math class in high school.” Who knew?
We are friends with two swinger couples who have shared their experiences with converting the vanilla. For one couple, it did not go so well.
After some lifestyle experiences that have left us somewhat confused and questioning, we had a wonderful evening that reaffirmed why we are in the lifestyle in the first place. The evening was fun, sexy, and comfortable. No drama and some really hot times.
So this is one of those blogs about a bad swinging experience. It was a misunderstanding. It’s all cleared up between Mr. Doubleplay and I, but it caused hurt feelings. And I believe that we’re stronger as a result. I share the details since hopefully it help other couples avoid dramas of their own. Because, truly, drama sucks in the swinging lifestyle. It should be fun. Vanilla life is drama enough!
The first mistake we made was not clarifying the line between dirty talk in the bedroom and what we wanted actually to happen in real life. After our weekend visit with the Ws (mentioned in previous blogs), we were getting ready to say our good byes. Mr. Doubleplay came up to me and said, “I’m going to help Lady W pack!” and headed to the bedroom. All of our kids were in the house and it wasn’t necessarily feasible for us all to join in. But I became increasingly uneasy about what was taking place in the bedroom. I had mentioned to Mr. Doubleplay during a hot round of sex just between the two of us that I would love if he would sweep Lady W away and had his way with her as a ‘welcome to our house’ gift. I didn’t really mean for him to do that, but he did.
Mrs Doubleplay realizes a number of things about her comfort level with playing after a hard swap situation in which the couples switched partners for the duration of the evening
The Doubleplays take a risk and invite a couple that they’re still not 100% sure about compatibility with to stay with them and bring their kids.
After five years in the lifestyle The Doubleplays begin to have discussions and fantasy talk about making the move to full swap, and after an episode of Swingercast, they make the leap.
Team Doubleplay meet The Wonderfuls for a date, and discuss where their boundaries are when it comes to jealousy, taking one for the team, and attraction imbalance