I mentioned that during Anne’s first full swap that I was on the verge of losing an erection. Well, that happened again and it was worse. Way worse. I know this is a common thing. I honestly didn’t think it would ever happen to me. I just turned thirty and am in the best shape of my life. Now I know how naive this line of thinking really is.

Ethical Slut, in her October 7, 2011 blog raised the question of how much of our “lifestyle” we should share with our children.

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we’ve talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

I’ve never been one to take the idea of New Year’s resolutions all that seriously. But if the idea of a starting point for mass individual self-improvement works for you, may I humbly suggest a few ideas that would benefit our community.

What follows isn’t a swinger bucket list or a swingo card, these are challenges that if completed would not only benefit you but also build and strengthen our community.

I am a big fan of prostate stimulation. Though in all honesty I am not super experienced with it. Needless to say I was very excited to test out the Onyx Prostate Massage Wand. In the past I had only ever used prostate massagers that were of the insert and forget variety. The Onyx was a totally new experience.

I’ve met a few poly couples and read about many more who have a Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) policy in their relationship. They both date other people, but have a rule that they should share as little as possible about their outside relationships with each other. I can’t decide if this is a brilliant idea or a really terrible idea for a relationship.

It occurred to me today – well, many times, but I only dwelled enough on the subject to write about it today – that the wedding ring, which once was the universal sign for “don’t even try to flirt with me” has lost that aspect of its meaning in my life. How many people do we know who are happily married and also romantically available? I am on that list.

We continue our “Swinging For Dummies” discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a “deal-breaker” for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it’s important to remember that you’re going to be okay TOGETHER.

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Finding people in your area to mingle with as a bondage related individual may seem next to impossible. Like swingers, poly couples, and other sexual “deviants”, (I mean that in a good way!) BDSM’ers do not openly advertise in the every day vanilla world. So, in an effort to meet new people in the community, I often suggest that new comers join different bondage related sites.