It had been a good while since we had met anyone new in the lifestyle, but there we were at a bar awaiting a new couple to arrive for drinks. I had talked to the man of the couple online quite a bit. From what I gathered they were very excited to meet us. In our classic style we arrived before them, so we had time to be at least half way through a drink before they arrived. I am still to new to all this to pretend to not be nervous meeting new people. Maybe you never get used to it. That wouldn’t be too bad. After all, the nervousness is part of the excitement.

Tyler and I first saw the Liberator Shapes (a collection of foam bedroom “furniture”) at a local adult toy store. Since we had our anniversary coming up, we decided to splurge a little and get something fun for the both of us – and boy am I glad we did!

At the store, the sales person showed us the Ramp, Wedge, and whirl (which is like a bolster). All of the Shapes are made from a heavy-duty foam and are covered with a non-slip cover that is machine washable. Because of the foam construction, all of the Shapes are very light for their size.

A comment came to me on the last blog that I posted in regards to…

It’s not often you come across something that fills exactly the niche you were hoping for, but that’s what happened when I read through The Swinger Manual by Just Ask Julie. See, Marilyn and I haven’t been swinging as long as a lot of our friends, and one of the reasons we started this podcast is to help “newbies in distress.”

When someone is asking questions about my lifestyle, the one I get most often seems…

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa.

Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the…

The Swingset received a request for advice the other day, and since I’m not locked in the top secret Swingset toy testing lab all day, I thought I’d use it to launch an advice column.

So bring on the questions! I’ll do my best to answer them and provide any guidance I can. Just note that the advice free, and I really know very little about anything. Email to tyler@lifeontheswingset.com.

Tristan Taormino is an amazing writer and very very thoughtful, humorous, and hits all the right notes in putting together a book that makes you feel better about your decisions about opening up your relationship when so much of society is designed to make us feel bad about that decision.

As we have moved through this vanilla phase, I’ve realized just how busy an ethical non-monogamist’s life actually is. Even though we haven’t had the time to actively date, we are still building and maintaining relationships that mean something to us. Some are long-time friends we miss. Some are new budding relationships that have fantastic promise. And some are just fun messages from brand new hotties we haven’t met yet, but would love to find the time to meet.