When many of you read my blog, you may ask yourself, “Who is this person…
We continue our 50th episode reflection of what we’re still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she’s in an exploratory mood lately.
There are times in the Lifestyle when we are certain of things. Our choices and decisions are solid and we know what we need and want in any given moment. But, we also run into moments where we are uncertain. Times when we don’t know what to do and we depend on our partners to help us figure things out. But there are some things we can only count on ourselves for. One of them is knowing what we want and need in our relationships and if we are settling in the process.
Only fairly recently has polyamory developed an organized culture, and the language around it is still forming. Because of that, there is not complete agreement on how the words arising to fill the needs of the polyamorous are used.
Observing the little niceties is important. I’ve been in the Lifestyle for less than a year, but I’ve seen that the concept is generally practiced among swinging couples who know that good social graces improve the chances of making the best kind of new friends – those who will have sex with you. But good graces among the single men? Not so much.
As much as I am enjoying the lifestyle, it is starting to become a huge pain. I’m having an issue with one aspect of the life that I never even thought of at the beginning. I thought I might have some jealousy issues. I thought I might get weirded out by meeting people for sex. I worried about health and safety risks of screwing random people. I thought of creepy guys at swinger clubs hitting on me and having really awkward encounters with people we just weren’t in to. I never thought the biggest frustration would be cleaning!
Mr D are having a bad streak of lifestyle blues. As with many couples we have to really work to make time for lifestyle activities given our schedules, and especially since we need to arrange childcare to get out and about. Since we live way out there in middle America, the nearest club is almost two hours away (and no hotel nearby). So to get to a club we are either in for a very, very late evening….err morning. Or we need to plan a weekend away. Not an easy thing to do with young kids!
Before I had a chance to take in the amount of shit I was about to be in I was dragged off by the insatiable Miriam to a bedroom we found all to ourselves. True to form she had my cock in her mouth before I even got to the bed. She is one of those hungry playmates who demands to be remembered for how willingly and enthusiastically she gives pleasure. We writhed, licked, rubbed and sucked every part of each other we could reach until I needed her pussy like I needed air.
The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yerns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.
We’ve all heard the coined phrase seen in many swinger profiles, many of us have encountered it and even some have experienced first hand the concept of taking one for the team in the swinging community. But, what exactly does this mean?