I had been flirting with Janie most of the night. She sat cross legged on the barstool, a tiny thing in a gauzy white blouse and beads; she is smart, pretty and has an easy laugh. Her dancer body is thin, strong and pierced in a couple very cool places. I am sure I told her all these things and more as the evening wore on; I could tell I was getting to her as much as she was getting to me. We had exchanged a few caresses and many deep stares into each other’s eye. I could not have been happier when she agreed to come over for an after party.

Today Marilyn and I decided to take a big step in our lifestyle. We have just booked a trip to Desire for next February. Why is this a big step? Well, to date our swinging interactions have mainly been with people we’ve met a few times and then played with, or people we know through others and are therefore sort of “vouched for.” (which is really a post all in itself…) Though we fully intend to give on/off site parties and clubs a chance, we just haven’t gotten around to it, which is really because we’ve never been that comfortable meeting people. So to now book a trip to a clothing optional and VERY swinger friendly resort….well, it’s a bold move for us, and one I’m proud of.

One of the many surprises of Swinging is how quickly close bonds are formed. Within weeks or months of meeting a new couple, it is entirely possible to know them as well (or better) than their long-time friends. Hours of pillow talk will do that.

In our second episode, we continue our logistics of getting into the lifestyle with a look at finding friends and admitting to them and yourself that you want to…well…have sex with them. We discuss first dates, where to go and most importantly how to be safe when opening yourself up.

We’re lucky enough to have a local bar that, every Wednesday, is happy to host a small group of swingers. This bar is fully aware of who we are, and judging by the amount of traffic that the OTHER half of the bar gets on Wednesday nights, they were absolutely thrilled to have us there. I’m told we have even been offered porn on the small & curtained off VIP area.

Thirty days.

I really did expect to ditch it sooner. Mainly because I have little sense of follow through, but also because I didn’t expect it to be nearly as good as it was.

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