Sandstone retreat, a safe haven for non-monogamy, swinging, and polyamory in the sixties comes under fire and must weather a storm of problems from all directions.
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There are plenty of reasons why people who are in open relationships are also in marriages (their own marriages, not someone else’s). People may choose to explore open relationships after they have already gotten married. I know plenty of people who were married long before they got into the life style. Couples who were already open may choose to get married for health insurance, immigration, tax or a whole host of other, pragmatic reasons. While they may have been together and loved each other for a long time, what ultimately sends them down the aisle is the desire for one of them to finally have dental coverage.
Sandstone Retreat, a haven of open sexuality in the swinging sixties, delivers a lesson about jealousy and what it means to be open.
So this is one of those blogs about a bad swinging experience. It was a misunderstanding. It’s all cleared up between Mr. Doubleplay and I, but it caused hurt feelings. And I believe that we’re stronger as a result. I share the details since hopefully it help other couples avoid dramas of their own. Because, truly, drama sucks in the swinging lifestyle. It should be fun. Vanilla life is drama enough!
The first mistake we made was not clarifying the line between dirty talk in the bedroom and what we wanted actually to happen in real life. After our weekend visit with the Ws (mentioned in previous blogs), we were getting ready to say our good byes. Mr. Doubleplay came up to me and said, “I’m going to help Lady W pack!” and headed to the bedroom. All of our kids were in the house and it wasn’t necessarily feasible for us all to join in. But I became increasingly uneasy about what was taking place in the bedroom. I had mentioned to Mr. Doubleplay during a hot round of sex just between the two of us that I would love if he would sweep Lady W away and had his way with her as a ‘welcome to our house’ gift. I didn’t really mean for him to do that, but he did.
With her boorish partner out of her life, Payton is faced with re-entering the swinging lifestyle as a unicorn, a single woman, and how her relationships affect that and her.
Rather than being simply all about the sex, for many swingers, the swinging lifestyle is actually about learning about themselves and growing as people. Our newest writer, Ivey Lane explores this.
What is swinger drama and why does it scare the crap out of everybody? We discuss drama between couples and drama within a couple, and how it’s a good idea to run run run as fast as you can away from both types.
Marty Kay Zee begins to spin his tale about his experiences with swinging and changing views of open sexuality from the late sixties.
The Doubleplays take a risk and invite a couple that they’re still not 100% sure about compatibility with to stay with them and bring their kids.
Neamhspleachas talks about how competition can help in business and government, so when applied to non-monogamy, the appearance of competition can help improve the relationship.