This weeks question comes from a couple who are hoping their friends are into swinging like they are.
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A comment came to me on the last blog that I posted in regards to…
It’s not often you come across something that fills exactly the niche you were hoping for, but that’s what happened when I read through The Swinger Manual by Just Ask Julie. See, Marilyn and I haven’t been swinging as long as a lot of our friends, and one of the reasons we started this podcast is to help “newbies in distress.”
Tristan Taormino is an amazing writer and very very thoughtful, humorous, and hits all the right notes in putting together a book that makes you feel better about your decisions about opening up your relationship when so much of society is designed to make us feel bad about that decision.
As we have moved through this vanilla phase, I’ve realized just how busy an ethical non-monogamist’s life actually is. Even though we haven’t had the time to actively date, we are still building and maintaining relationships that mean something to us. Some are long-time friends we miss. Some are new budding relationships that have fantastic promise. And some are just fun messages from brand new hotties we haven’t met yet, but would love to find the time to meet.
Just the tip is a concept of teasing done by a man where he gives…
There’s a lot to be said for sloppy sex. The kind of sweaty, can’t-catch-your-breath sex that dampens the sheets – not because the bedroom was too hot to begin with, but because it got overheated during all the physical activity.
A few years ago we made plans with a fairly newbie couple – the first time we were with a third couple. We went to a dance club and then planned to meet up at a hotel. The newbie couple never showed. We had fun with the other couple, so no worries.
There are times in the Lifestyle when we are certain of things. Our choices and decisions are solid and we know what we need and want in any given moment. But, we also run into moments where we are uncertain. Times when we don’t know what to do and we depend on our partners to help us figure things out. But there are some things we can only count on ourselves for. One of them is knowing what we want and need in our relationships and if we are settling in the process.
As much as I am enjoying the lifestyle, it is starting to become a huge pain. I’m having an issue with one aspect of the life that I never even thought of at the beginning. I thought I might have some jealousy issues. I thought I might get weirded out by meeting people for sex. I worried about health and safety risks of screwing random people. I thought of creepy guys at swinger clubs hitting on me and having really awkward encounters with people we just weren’t in to. I never thought the biggest frustration would be cleaning!