Making A List


“What's on your list?” Sasha asked me.

“I'm…um…my list?”

“Your todo list, you know, lifestyle todos.”

“Oh! I hadn't really thought about it.”

“Well, you should. Tell some nice people your list and they're gonna want to help you check things off…” She winked.

So, I thought, why don't we, as a swingset, compile a “Master Swingset Todo List?”  I'll get things started with some of mine and friends, and you guys can submit your own in the comments to help us all go from vanilla to sex god in a few easy checks!

We're gonna be getting graphic, so put on your hazmat suit and goggles.  (Though, I've been told the goggles, they do nothing!)

Voyeurism – Both of you watch another couple

Voyeurism – One of you watches your partner with another person

Exhibitionism – You perform for someone else online

Exhibitionism Live – You perform for someone else in person

Threesome – FFM (Female, Female, Male)

Threesome – MFM (Male, Female, Male)

Foursome (Couple & Couple)

Moresome (Five Plus People…Orgy Style!)

Anal sex

DP – Double Penetration (Mouth & Pussy)

DP – Double Penetration (Pussy & Ass)

DVP – Double Vaginal Penetration (2 Cocks, One Pussy)

DAP – Double Anal Penetration (2 Cocks, One Ass, BE CAREFUL!)

Airtight – Mouth, Pussy, Ass

Bukake – Lots of Cum, on the Face

Gang Bang – More than Three Guys on One Girl

Dual Blow Job

Girl on Girl Oral

Strap on Play (Girl/Girl)

Pegging (Strap on Play, Girl/Guy)

Guy on Guy BJ

Guy on Guy Anal

Hall Pass – You are allowed to go on a date/have sex without your partner present

Rimming – Analingus

BDSM – Domination

BDSM – Submission

Titty Fuck

Lights Off Orgy

So those are (or were at one time) on us here at the Swingset's lists.  What's on yours?  What should be on ours?  Let us know in the comments!


About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.


  1. I'm so happy that I finally got the time to come over and check things out. Nice site! Nice work!
    I'm happy to say, I've got a lot of this list in the bag, yet still more fun stuff to do.

    • Thanks for stopping by the Swingset, Kidder…surprised you were able to find the time with your whirlwind book tour to promote your brand spanking new book! (Perhaps spanking needs to be on the list…hmmm) As for the rest of your list, there's always Desire 2010, right?

  2. I want to watch. Anything. I love watching and hey, I might even play with myself in the meantime. But since I’m not technically a swinger, it’s baby steps for me. I am definitely a voyuer and a bit of an exhibitionist…

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