Instead, I am jealous that I do not have enough play opportunities. As I have written about ad nauseum in previous blogs, Mr. Doubleplay probably has about 75% more intercourse than I do when we play with couples, despite our intentions. The amount of guys that can’t get it up or keep it up in the lifestyle still astonishes me.
The lack of hard cocks in the swinger world has caused me to realize that I should be seeking out more play opportunities for myself. Recently, I have discovered that I am a big fan of MFM opportunities. I was worried that I might find them intimidating but my experience with a single guy and Mr. D proved to be just the opposite—I was relaxed and fully in my element. I loved not having to worry about the other girl. Was she fine with all that was happening? Was she having a good time? I was so happy not to have to worry about all of that. Instead, it was all about me. And it turns out, I love that.
We have only had one MFM because Mr. D. is in charge of the technical side of our swinging. He checks our profiles, keeps track of correspondence, and trolls the site for potential couples. I am grateful for his dedication. We probably wouldn’t swing at all if it were up to me. I don’t know how he finds the hours necessary to do that work. (I suppose I would rather blog about the lifestyle than doing the couple research).
Mr. D. is not opposed to MFM scenes. But he doesn’t get anything out of it that he doesn’t already get for me. In our rare MFF scenes, I am devouring the gal as much as he is. But as a straight swinger, Mr. D. not only doesn’t get a new play partner in an MFM, but he also has to be careful where he is touching to keep clear of the other guy. The rubbing of man parts is awkward for him.
Because he doesn’t get extra benefits from MFM scenes, he doesn’t want to do the work to find them. So I am going to need to step up to do the work of finding single guys. Luckily the new hot blonde in our life is able to offer me advice. She has screened some of the potential guys already. Plus she can give her honest advice to me about my prospects. It’s great to have a sounding board!
I need to start chatting with some of these single guys to see who might be a good fit. I am not sure if I am going to enjoy the hunt. But with any new lifestyle experiences, it’s best to dive in and give it a try.
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I wish there were more people that thought like Mrs. Doubleplay… Most couples block single guys from even seeing their profile…
I look forward to hearing how this goes for you. We have noticed good single guys are the hardest to find and actually get to meet. We have a much easier time finding great single girls and couples. Can’t wait to hear some tips!
I am a single guy and most of my lifestyle friends are through referrals. These referrals happen in one of three ways:
1. A couple I have played with tells another couple and they contact me.
2. A couple notices that we have mutual friends on my profile and contacted them first.
3. The couple sees approved photos with other couples then contacts me asking about them.
It also helps that the narrative in your profile is well written along with a variety of photos, not just body shots. Single guys are at a disadvantage, but once you start meeting couples it starts to snow ball.
Good luck.
thanks mrs. d. i always enjoy your blog. your profile sounds like us…we’re in the bible belt, go to church, typical family life and happen to be swingers! do you all have more luck at swing clubs or do you arrange hotel or home play time?
hubby usually checks our swinger sites mail and he brings single guys to my attention. so far though we’ve hooked up with singles at clubs and parties.
have a great day~ s
Hey CT, were do we find our play mates?!