The Polyamorous Playlist Project


The Polyamorous Playlist ProjectThe other day, my lifestyle boyfriend sent me a song, saying, “The song Trouble by Chris Rene. …So you.” The lyrics go, “That girl is trouble, trouble, she always wants to take off her clothes…”

I replied back that the song Nice and Slow by Usher should be the theme song for our night last week when we went to his cabin in the woods and fucked for 2 1/2 hours without interruption.

“Feels like a playlist coming on,” he told me.

And thus began the Polyamorous Playlist Project. Most of the songs fit a range of lifestyle preferences, but I like the alliteration of Polyamorous Playlist Project. So let’s roll with it.

Finding songs to fit the list is a lot harder than you might think. We wanted songs that were sexy, but not gross. A gross sexy song to me is epitomized by the song by Khia, My Neck, My Back (Lick It). The song goes, “Lick it good, suck this pussy, just like you should…Lick my pussy and my crack. Then you roll your tongue, from the crack back to the front, then suck it off til I shake and cum.”

Mr. D is partial to that song. When I hear it, all I can think is, “Gross.” Even if I like to do those things. A lot. That kind of song doesn't want to make me fuck somebody, makes me want to roll my eyes and turn off the music.

We instead were looking for the kind of song that was sexy hot. But also stayed clear from lyrics about being together forever. About being the only one. About love in a way that seemed too traditional.

And so here is the start of our playlist. My guy has a penchant for hip-hop and R&B, so it definitely has that flavor. And I have a penchant for indy rock, so some of that is in there as well.

I welcome others to chime in with other songs that fit lifestyle vibe of ‘high-end sexy’ but not defining us into categories that just don't feel right. Songs that represent the fun adventurous nature of the lifestyle. Songs that remind us to embrace who we are, to be adventurous, and to have a fucking good time!

Say Goodbye, Dave Matthews Band

Stay,  Rihanna, Mikky Ekko

Trouble, Chris Rene

Mysterious Ways, U2

Motivation, Kelly Rowland, Lil Wayne

Crush, Dave Matthews Band

Nice and Slow, Usher

Daylight, Maroon 5

S & M, Rihanna

Beast of Burden, Rolling Stones

In a Little While, U2

Bed, J. Holiday

Hunger for the Great Light, Dave Matthews Band

Drive, Melissa Ferrick

Left and Right, D’Angelo, Redman, Method Man

Shut it Down, Drake, The-Dream

Live for, The Weeknd, Drake

Don’t Think They Know, Chris Brown, Aaliyah

Kisses Down Low, Kelly Rowland

Pour It Up, Rihanna

Retrograde, James Blake

Halo, Beyoncé

Back You Up, Dave Matthews Band

Coconut Skins, Damien Rice

Down On Me, Jeremih, 50 Cent

Bed Peace, Jhene Aiko, Childish Gambino

Crash Into Me, Dave Matthews


Mrs. Doubleplay is 40-something mom living in the middle of America with kids, a career, and pretty house in the suburbs. She’s active in her local church, coaches the kids’ soccer games, and happens to have a secret life as a swinger. Married to her high school sweetheart, Mr. Doubleplay, the couple dipped their toes in the lifestyle for a couple of years but then dropped off the radar to have kids. They rejoined the lifestyle in 2005 and haven’t looked back. They have been soft swap from the start but are working their way toward greater forms of adventure as we meet hot couples on lifestyle vacations, swinger clubs, and online websites.


  1. Pitbull – Give Me Everything
    Enrique Iglesias – Tonight I’m Fucking You
    Black Eyed Peas – I Gotta Feeling

    Songs I relate to swinging are mostly dance/party/club music. I love the lyrics and the beats of these 3.

  2. De Luis Eduardo Aute hay dos tems bastante calientes: “Mojándolo todo” y “Alevosía”. Son especiales para su selección.

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