MA 075: Primary Partners and Priority in Polyamory


Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number of long-term relationship milestones, most people choose to do that with a single, primary partner. However, we argue that it is possible to enjoy these things either with one partner or multiple partners, but without resorting to establishing a rigid hierarchy. We explore the idea of organic priority within your relationships, rather than prescribing hierarchical roles.


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Multiamory’s mission is to provide awareness and education about the ethical practice of non-monogamy through entertaining and accessible content. is an information resource, blog, and podcast created by Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from lots of research and years of personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

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