MA 135: What’s Your Apology Language? – Multiamory


Our favorite God-doctor Gary Chapman, creator of the 5 Love Languages, has come up with another useful tool for communication: the 5 Apology Languages. Have you ever apologized to your partner for a mistake in the past, only to find that your partner brings it up again a week later, expressing frustration that you never really said you were sorry? What the hell? Was your partner not listening?

It's possible that you and your partner have different apology languages. What felt like a genuine apology to you may have not landed at all with your partner. Tune in to find out more about apology languages and gain some insight for the next time one of you needs to say, “I'm sorry.”

You can take the apology languages quiz here:

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Multiamory’s mission is to provide awareness and education about the ethical practice of non-monogamy through entertaining and accessible content. is an information resource, blog, and podcast created by Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from lots of research and years of personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

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