SS 367: Gangbang the Mailbag 39 with Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson

That Swingset mailbag we all know and love was getting pretty full of listener questions. And since there is always a swing available on the Swingset, Dylan and Ginger invited Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson to share their wisdom. The foursome takes on questions about mono-polyam relationship sustainability, supporting your partner's dating life, and finds time to catch up about some awesome life updates.

And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, “For Hire: Audition.”

We answer a listener voicemail on internalized feelings of guilt and shame, then proceed to answer the following emailed in questions:

Question 1:

I am half of a swinging/polyamorous couple. I have a fantastic dating life and want my husband to too! For some reason, he won't put himself out there because he said he feel like a creeper. He is, I think, overly respectful in that he thinks the not cool “single guy” baggage applies to him and it just isn't true. How can I get him to get out there? He will make a woman or some women in addition to me very happy.

Question 2:

We have been open for two years and have recently decided to be polyamorous. My husband will be remaining monogamous, but I feel I am my truest self if I am polyamorous.

I have been in a friends with benefits type situation with someone I now have strong feelings for. He is monogamous and I am unsure if he would be willing to date me. How do I go about talking to him about this?

I guess my question is, is a mono-poly relationship sustainable?

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