Being in the lifestyle, of course I chuckled at the question of how to help to avoid having an affair and tossed it out to Mr. Doubleplay as we were making dinner one day. But I soon realized that Mr. Doubleplay had very different answers when it comes down to it. In the lifestyle as well as the vanilla world, there is a Venus and there is a Mars.
Mr. Doubleplay spoke of how he loves that he is allowed to let his eyes wander now. You can sample the buffet of women out there with permission. No need to hide it!
“Men really do have affairs simply because they see a hot piece of ass?” I ask.
“Yes,” he says, “of course.”
“But aren’t affairs really about not having ones needs fulfilled in a marriage—a connection has been lost?”
“Not always,” he says. “I think sometimes it’s about seeing something really hot in front of you.”
He then quickly adds, “Of course, most people don’t have a wife as hot as you.”
Nice recovery, Mr. Doubleplay! For me, what I love about the lifestyle is that our communication is deeper. We know much more what we are thinking and wishing because we don’t sensor. And through the communication our relationship is deeper too. A nice piece of ass isn’t bad either. But it is not what it is all about. I also love the thrill. Doing something so totally out-of-bounds of what a ‘good girl’ would do. And learning to be sexual. To be open and clear and noisy and to let it all happen.
I walked away from this conversation wanting to explore further if men and women do seek and experience for different reasons. Stay tuned.
